Published: September 18, 2020
Updated: April 6, 2021
September 18, 2020
Do you often feel unworthy or inferior to others? You might rarely prioritize your wants or needs. Or you are likely always the one saying, “I’m sorry”—even when you are not entirely sure why.
You might be lacking self-respect.
In this article, we will dive into:
Start right here and right now down a path toward a better life. What are you missing when it comes to self-respect, and how can you gain more of it?
Self-respect is having confidence in yourself and your abilities, while also feeling that you are acting with honor and dignity.
You might be wondering, what is the difference between self-respect and self-esteem? Aren’t these terms the same?
Self-respect and self-esteem are very similar but also two different concepts.
Self-esteem is an evaluation of your own worth and appearing confident in everyday situations. It does not help when you doubt yourself, but self-respect does.
Self-respect gives you confidence in yourself, which can cast self-doubt aside.
Your level of self-respect seeps into various aspects of your life, including your relationships, work, and lifestyle choices. Whether or not you respect yourself will determine who you become and what you do. It will also contribute to your overall happiness and fulfillment.
When you don’t respect yourself, you will experience less happiness. Yet, when you do, opportunities open to you, and you experience a higher state of happiness and well-being. Below, we dive into how self-respect influences your life in greater detail.
While you should respect your partner or friend in any relationship, it is equally important to respect yourself. Similarly to communication and trust, respect is the foundation of any relationship.
When you have a high level of self-respect, where you accept yourself and have confidence in what you bring to the table, others will also respect you more. This creates a healthier relationship. For example, with more self-respect, you are able to set boundaries and stick to them. Moreover, you know your worth and are not willing to settle.
A high amount of self-respect allows your relationships to flourish. It creates healthy and robust relationships that last a lifetime and contribute to your overall happiness. For this to happen, you must respect yourself enough to ensure you only have positive influences in your life.
It is completely okay to let go of people who are not serving you or bringing you down. By instilling confidence in your strengths and weaknesses and building your self-respect, you will be able to walk away from situations or people that are toxic to your life.
An individual with low self-respect, however, may end up in a relationship where the other person treats them as inferior. They allow that person to walk all over them because they do not respect themselves.
Without self-respect, you may lose who you are and what you stand for in a relationship. Moreover, you may give up your ability to make decisions, which can result in a loss of control in your life.
If you look around at the successful people in your life, you will notice how they set clear boundaries and how they prioritize. They likely go after their goals and aren’t overly quick to respond to other demands. They know what they want, and they respect themselves enough to go for it.
Ideally, you want to respect yourself enough to push through the fear or doubt and go after that job, business, or position you have been dreaming about. You do not want to waste your life away in a position or job role that you dislike.
Therefore, gaining more self-respect allows you to do just that. It gives you the confidence to go after what you want. As a result, this brings more happiness and fulfillment into your life as well.
Self-respect gives way to a healthy body and a healthy mind.
You end up having enough self-respect to avoid overworking and burnout. Similarly, you are achieving your goals for yourself—not for others.
With self-respect, you are able to set boundaries. You are able to say “No” to not only external factors and people but also to your own unhealthy habits.
When you respect yourself, you look after yourself through the lifestyle choices you make. For instance, self-respect can offer motivation to exercise or eat well. You know it will make you feel good and that it optimizes you, so you continue with these healthy habits.
This translates into building the life you want. When you feel good, you are more equipped to go after that job you have been wanting or settle into a healthy and robust relationship.
A lack of self-respect may lead to you over-indulging or skipping out on the gym. You certainly don't respect your health or body enough to give it what it needs. You might also give too much of your time to others or fall into an unhealthy relationship. This can lead to a low quality of life, among other issues.
How do you know if you have low self-respect or not? Use the following low self-respect signs to determine if you need to learn how to respect yourself more.
You know you want or need something, but you never voice it. Frequently, instead, you go along with what other people want or need. In other words, you may ‘give in’ more than you ‘take’ or stand your ground.
You apologize for situations you may have no control or responsibility in. Further, you may feel guilty for something as simple as taking up space in a room.
If a friend or partner says something is worth wearing or trending, you wear it. If your friends are drinking and you do not want to, you still drink. You have a tendency to do or say as others do, as opposed to forming your own opinions or identity.
You feel you don't deserve higher pay or a better job. As a result, you avoid the job you want or cause you to end up in a toxic relationship.
You rarely make your own decisions. Instead, you let others decide for you. If you do make your own decision, you also may have trouble sticking or standing by them.
You don’t know when to say “No”. A lack of boundaries causes vulnerability and opens you up to hurt. Consequently, this often leads to others walking all over you.
Because you long to feel needed or wanted, so you give things to others or do things for them even when you are not enjoying it.
You have a need to feel loved, accepted, and appreciated because you struggle to respect yourself. Consequently, sometimes this may even arise in the form of sexual promiscuity or serial dating.
Your critical internal dialogue tells you that you are not enough or worthy. In addition, you believe people will not accept you for who you are.
Many parts of your life mold your level of self-respect. In short, your genes, your life experiences, and the world around you may impact the amount of self-respect you have for yourself.
Experts state that chemicals rooted in your brain at birth may impact your level of confidence, happiness, and whether or not you respect yourself.
They further elaborate that as we grow, it is our life experiences that may alter or change this predetermined genetic makeup.
If you have experienced bullying or harassment, these situations often demonstrate that another person does not respect you. Therefore, this can feed your internal dialogue and cause you to disrespect yourself.
Luckily, there are various ways you can build your self-respect. Just because other situations have molded it and you in the past, this does not mean that the future is not well within your control.
Most of the time, if someone shows you disrespect, it is not about you. Rather, they may lack self-respect and are deflecting it onto you. Ultimately, your opinion of yourself is more important than what others think about you.
You can take your power back and recover your natural level of self-respect.
Marisa Peer, the founder of Rapid Transformational Therapy® (RTT®) and renowned celebrity therapist, often says that all babies behave as if they are the center of the universe. They do not have a problem with self-respect or self-esteem. They feel enough. This means we have all had self-respect at some point, but potentially lost it during the process of life. So, let’s learn how to get it back.
Self-respect can help you become who you are meant to be. So, how can you get there? Here are some ways you can start building self-respect today:
A common hurdle many individuals face when trying to find self-respect and self-love is overcoming self-doubt. Many individuals think they are not enough—whether that be in their relationship, at work, or on a sports team.
Over the three decades of experience working with clients worldwide, the world-renowned therapist, speaker, author, and founder of Rapid Transformational Therapy Marisa Peer, concluded that the feeling of not being enough lies at the root of most people’s issues.
Over and over again, Marisa was able to free her clients from this unhelpful belief and help them live happier, more fulfilled lives. She distilled the core principles of her method and offers it in a free masterclass.
Everyone should be able to know where self-doubt comes from and how to deal with it by learning how the mind works.
This class by Marisa Peer can improve your whole outlook on life through one simple mindset shift. Moreover, it can help you let go of mental blocks and provide practical tips on how to reprogram your mind for success.
The truth is that you are enough, and you do have the power to change your life. All you need to do is start telling yourself the truth. You are enough, you always have been, and you always will be.
The only person that can truly reject you is yourself. Thus, it is time to start being more kind to yourself and reminding yourself that you are enough—no matter what anyone else thinks.
The ‘I am enough’ concept is rooted in Rapid Transformation Therapy® (RTT®). Marisa Peer created RTT through her three decades of experience with Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, psychotherapy, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, and hypnotherapy.
Remember, it is entirely possible to gain more self-respect and step into the life you want. Book a session with a certified RTT therapist and uncover the full potential of newly gained self-respect.
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