Published: August 7, 2013
Updated: March 22, 2021
August 7, 2013
People often come to my office for a session with me or buy my books when they feel they haven't achieved enough success in their lives. They ask me to tell them what the traits of successful people are, how they can become successful in their career, achieve their creative ambitions, or just create and stick to healthy habits such as exercise and healthy eating.
"Belief without talent will take you further than talent without belief'
So much of success comes down to belief in yourself. I always tell my clients the quote above, and it's so true. It's why some people who have little talent but tons of ambition manage to get to the top of their fields. If you have talent and belief in yourself, you are quite literally unstoppable.
With that said, in all my time helping my clients become successful people, I have found that there are 4 traits of successful people that they all share. Remember that even if you don't have these traits currently, all you have to do to attain them is create new habits. Never forget that what you do quickly becomes who you are. First you make your habits and then your habits make you.
Often, the things we dislike—exercise, studying, organising, working on weekends or dieting—are what stand between us and our goals. Successful people don't shy away from these things, they learn to endure them by creating new habits and changing the way they talk about them. So, instead of "Ugh, I hate it when I can't eat carbs" they say "I love the way resisting sugar and bloating foods makes me feel." Instead of saying "I hate exercise it's so boring" they say "my body loves working out." They say this over and over until, guess what, they begin to believe it.
It's true that some successful people make it look easy, as if they're always attracting the right people and opportunities into their life. But the truth is, success doesn't come to people, people go to it. So people that have achieved things you admire have undoubtedly spent day after day refusing to accept anything but "yes." If someone turns down their proposal, doesn't give them the job, or tells them they're unqualified, they simply take the criticism, improve what they can, and move on to the next opportunity. Absolutely nothing replaces persistence.
This trait of successful people isn't an easy task. When I first began writing my books, it didn't come easy to me. I had a young child, I felt like I was always on a deadline and I used to do everything I could possibly imagine before actually sitting down to write. These days, I write first thing without even brushing my hair or even going downstairs, because over the years I've trained myself to tackle what used to be a difficult task first. So if you hate exercise, don't wait until the end of the day. If you have an annoying task to do, schedule it for the first part of your day. Getting this type of task done sooner will also boost your sense of achievement which you'll carry with you for the rest of your day.
This one's quite simple, but so many people make excuses not to do it. If you want to be a writer, you must write every day (even if you don't have a book contract); if you want to lose weight, you must make positive food and activity choices everyday (even if you're busy at work); if you want to be more organised, you must choose one area of your house to clear up every day (even if it's just one drawer or table top). If you want your products to be known you have to make marketing calls every day. It doesn't have to be a huge accomplishment every day, but taking piece-meal steps daily will help you accrue a sense of accomplishment that will drive you toward your goals.
To complete all these steps and make them part of your life, you must erase the words "should," "try," and "maybe" from your mental script. Your mind is much like a classroom full of children—it knows exactly what to do, but it won't do it until you explicitly command it so. Begin phrasing everything you say to yourself in the affirmative, take action toward your goals and you will be amazed at what you can achieve.
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